How do you start your day?
Do you jump out of bed ready to go with energy and positive anticipation of what the day will bring?
Maybe the sounds of children, animals or other creatures rouse you to your day and there’s no time to think before you’re doing your morning routines getting yourself and everyone else underway.
Or maybe you’re more like I’ve been… Waking with anxiety and a bit of dread and pushing the snooze button for an extra 10 minutes, hoping I’ll feel better the next time it sounds.
Our morning mindset sets the stage for the rest of the day. We CAN affect, if not totally control, our moods. Here are a few tips for getting a great start to your day. Try them out and let us know how they work for you.
1. CIRCLE OF EXCELLENCE The powerful practice of Circle of Excellence is designed to put you in a mental and physical “state” of wellbeing with a positive, confident mindset. The simple 3 steps are described here: https://inlpcenter.org/circle-of-excellence-nlp/. They can be used anytime and in many situations. I start my day by tossing my imaginary Circle of Excellence on the floor next to my bed, so as soon as my feet hit the floor, I’m in the bright circle. I pause there for just a moment, imagining myself in a circle of radiant light and energy, take a deep breath, stretch, and say out loud, “It’s a great day! Everything is going to be alright!” Then I “pick up” the circle (nice back stretch), place it in my imaginary pocket (I’m still in pajamas) and head to the bathroom for morning ablutions.
2. ENERGIZING SHOWER Like many people, I take a shower in the morning. I start with warm water to clean and open pores, and then end with only cold water. Bracing! The pores slam shut and I’m fully awake. Singing or sounding is also energizing and good for stimulating the thymus gland (strengthens immune functions). 3. BRUSH TEETH WITH NON-DOMINANT HAND We have so many routines in our lives that we hardly need to think as we do them. Brushing with our non-dominant hand stimulates other parts of the brain and brings us into the present moment. While it may take awhile to become competent, (electric toothbrushes make it easier) it’s a great way to improve dexterity. Use it as a meditation for being in the present moment. Don’t forget to wink and smile at your cute self the mirror.
These practices take only a few moments, but they can launch you into your day with more energy, enthusiasm, and enjoyment (or at least a giggle).
Try them. If you like them, comment here. Or share your own morning rituals that get you going. We’d love to hear from you!
Make it a great day!
In his recent article 3 Keys to Becoming Irresistible, John Gorman describes three characteristics that, “when taken together, create a spellbinding supernova of a person — one who can command a room and control their destiny, one who can be both altruistic and intelligent.”Even though the examples he gives describe special people that he “adores,” they are the very qualities that we encourage leaders to cultivate to succeed in their careers and professional relationships. These characteristics may be natural to some people, but more often need to be learned and nurtured. The good news is that, once recognized as essential leadership skills, an aware person can learn and refine these qualities, leading to better relationships of all kinds.
So, what are these three keys to being irresistible?
Humility. The willingness to recognize that there is always more to learn. That there may be more perspectives than just yours. And that those perspectives may be even more “right” than yours. Humility is the absence of entitlement. A true leader doesn’t lead by position, but rather by purpose. Humility is the natural response as we value others, recognize our interconnectedness, and bear witness to the wondrous and fragile beauty of life.
Curiosity. “Curiosity drives an insatiable quest for knowledge, culture, novelty, experience, beauty, art and connection.” Leaders use their curiosity to drive innovation, encourage engagement and cultivate leadership in others. Rather than always having the “right answers,” effective leaders have compelling questions. Curiosity and inquiry can lead to better long-term solutions than off the cuff answers or unexamined biases. As with humility, an open mind and willingness to see things with “new eyes” are required.
Empathy. People need to know that their leaders can relate and truly care about them. Empathy does not mean that you necessarily agree or hold the same perspective as others. But the willingness to step into another’s experience and understand how they feel is the foundation for connection and rapport. It is an important precursor for honesty, which can foster trust, which in turn is essential for functional and productive relationships.
As Gorman points out, combined, these three traits amplify each other. Missing one or more component, and the magic is diminished. 1. Which of these 3 is most natural to you? 2. What quality do you want/need to cultivate more in yourself? 3. What will that take?
YOU: Change CatalystCHALLENGE: Conflict in your organizationCOST: Time, Money, JoyOPPORTUNITY: Transformation, Productivity
Did you know that 385 million workdays are spent in unproductive conflict, costing companies $359 billion in paid work hours, according to Entrepreneur magazine? How many hours do you spend dealing with conflict and confusion?
If you are a supervisor, manager or leader, you could be spending as much as a third of your time dealing with conflict…your’s or another’s. Here are a few tips for taking care of yourself in situations where there is tension.
Before you react, get curious. Ask…
1. What is the tension? Perhaps it is conflicting priorities or different perspectives on a
situation. Maybe it is from missed expectations. Having an understanding of the real
cause, not just the effect, can lead to better, long-lasting solutions.
2. Where do you feel it in your body? Our bodies often react before our reasoning, so
we move quickly into defensive or offensive “positions” rather than seeking alignment &
collaboration. We have “automatic thoughts,” or reactions that can lead to “fight or flight”
which rarely resolves the conflict and can add to resentment.
3. What is the need (yours or others)? Just asking “What do you need?” can help
identify the core issue and often lead to a solution. Since people often don’t know how
to articulate needs in specific outcomes or behaviors, managers may need to coach
people to help them identify and address those needs more autonomously.
4. What will resolve this tension? Human needs are often very basic and can be
resolved through clarity of roles, responsibilities, expectations and communications.
Time spent clarifying the need can save time in the long run. In the workplace, conflict
can often be resolved by clarifying roles and responsibilities, establishing policies that
spell out priorities or assigning tasks to a specific role so that people know who’s
Since people have different needs at different times, it’s natural…even healthy…to have conflict since it can lead to more clarity and understanding. Since conflict is inevitable, it’s important to turn destructive conflict into productive conflict.
CREATE A COMPARISON REPORT
Turn destructive conflict into productive conflict
If you have any Everything DiSC profile, you can create a Comparison Report with any co-worker or friend that also has an Everything DiSC profile in just a few easy steps.
1. Create or log into your MyEverythingDiSC.com account
2. Request a Comparison Report with the other person.
3. Once the Comparison Report has been created you’ll find tips for addressing tensions
and creating a more productive relationship.
4. Make a date for discussing a current issue or preparing for a future collaboration
using the information you have about each other.
5. Create an action plan for working better together as you understand each others’
needs, preferences and priorities
6. Want more tips? Schedule a complimentary 15-minute laser coaching session here.